NOTHING IS SACRED

2011-08-16T00:51:00.000+08:00

Yes Brunei is a day late than the rest of the world. Was not happy when the annoucement was made. My comment was rather harsh. I shall not repeat it here.

So far it has been good. Did my terawih on my own. It's better somehow. No need to rush. I want to really enjoy my prayer. If i can use the enjoy. But it should be. We are talking to god. Anyway all in all it has been a blessed ramadhan to me and my family. Hoping it will last right through the whole of ramadhan. Amin.

Apart from that work is kinda hectic as we are preparing a trip for october. 2nd week of raya and 4 cities in all! Got to sort my shopping list. Heeee. And need to plan for my raya open house. Got the menu sort out for that. Need to work out for the family lunch on the first day raya now.

Another Long Hiatus

2011-07-12T00:46:00.000+08:00

Well, it didn't last as long as before. Finished the thesis. Went to London. Jetlag. Still.
Got a new phone.
Doing some gardening.
Puasa soon. Oh.. the birthday functions to get over first. Then Puasa. Yeah...

First Day of My Holiday

2011-06-06T20:32:00.000+08:00

Didn't do anything. Just in my PJ the whole day. Eat, sleep, internet, eat, sleep again, internet. This is being jobless all about.

I am getting crazy ! GET ME OUT OF HERE !

And I even offered a friend to help with his thesis. It's something on islamic finance. Shyyyteeeeeee !

A baby named Mohammad Faiq Aqel

2011-06-05T15:34:00.000+08:00

Introducing my nephew

Mohammad Faiq Aqel. Faiq means - Tertinggi, Utama, Terkenal and Terkemuka. Heee I told you, it has awesome meanings. May he be the greatest man he could be and the most humble. Amin.

It's a Boy!

2011-06-04T12:59:00.000+08:00

My Nephew was born at 3 something this morning. at 3.3kg. Haven't managed to visit yet. But will do soon. Can't wait!

Long Over Due House-Warming Dinner

2011-06-04T00:58:00.000+08:00

Finally, I'd managed to find a time to organise a house-warming dinner for my friends. It has been long over due. Moved sometimes in March and it's June already. Not that everything is settled. My dining furniture has not arrived yet and so's my sofa. And my scrapping room is not to my satisfaction at the moment. Hardly do any scrapping but been hoarding lots of stuff. I got to get it sort out before my trip to London. Yeah I am off mid of the month.For 2 weeks. Not going to shop as much as my last trip since I got a few huge financial commitment to settle. Sigh. Macam-mana kan kaya ani kan?

Anyway, back to the dinner. I do hope everyone can make it. It has been a long time since we meet up, Jagong! So everyone better come. Plus I am cooking. Just finished doing the table setting and the buffet line actually. Decided to go for Italian tomorrow. Gotta go easy on the stomach. I still need to do a bit of shopping though tomorrow. And I got my meeting in the afternoon! Yikes. Forgot about that!

I think I am going to take a week's off before my trip. At least i can catch up on my sleep. And I might have a baby nephew soon. Hope it's the 5th June. Same birthday as my late Dad. And I got to name him. I came up with such a beautiful one with a rather powerful meaning for him. Will tell soon.

I better get a shut eye. It's raining with thunder and lightning outside!

Educating oneself - MLM Scammers

2011-06-02T13:12:00.010+08:00

I am a Google addict (if there is such thing). Yep, I google everything and I do mean everything. I like to call it ..hmm errr. educating myself? Well I am in some way. The stuff I came across varied from the shocking to the amusing one and to those blogs that opened my eyes to those things I have taken for granted. And this is the stuff that made me feel so rugi sangat-sangat but at least it is not too late. I am still searching for answers until now. But, one thing I learn from this one is that I would never take things for granted. There are somethings that you have to find and seek answer yourself despite it was ingrained since childhood.

Anyway, back my googling. There are those I regretted clicking (stupid! stupid!). Images so horrid and shocking that they are actually permanently imprinted in my mind. Urgh (If only I can backspace my memory or totally reformat them, that would be awesome). There are those that actually bring tears and anger and sometimes a sense of failure.I think some my previous posts showed some of them.

And there are those that I stalk. Hahaha. Hey, who doesn't? And don't tell me you never google your name. Try it. It would be very interesting to say the least. I got a friend whom I asked to google his name and it ended up at some Russian Website for man looking for Russian woman to marry. Whoahaha. He even got his photo there (he posted it himself soon after his last divorce. Wah ada niat nak kawin orang Russia lagi!) That was hillarious, well for me atleast. But he was grateful to me though for that. He is some big honcho with lots of other business related publications on him in the web. I know, I know. I am that fab :P

Okay back to those blog that I stalked (I am not going to link them. I am their silent reader) They range from some individuals with great sense of humor, wealth and style without being a showoff. There are some of people I know from the past (not Bruneians of course. In fact I only have a few local bloggers that I like). It is nice to know what they have been up to and a few I am in contact now. So it is not all bad being a stalker on the internet.

But of course there are those I hate but can't help reading because it is just too juicy and oh well.. great to bitch about.

There are some blogs that impressed me with their intellegence and their commitments to certain issues.

Today I want to share one of them. It's Aididleaks. It's all about the Multi-Level-Marketing (MLM) or pyramid scams which I am sure a lot of us remember what happened years back in Brunei. The blog is a no hold barred writing on everything related to MLM from Amway to Monavie to Hai-O and AC Mizal Magnetic Bracelet. And his posts are very details with arguments and facts and came with discriminating evidence from photos, screen-shots to personal info from real name to IC number, address, place of work, etc) Crazy! I told you it was no hold bar! But then again, he was telling more or less facts. I guess that is why he has not been sued (and it was only recently, he put up his photo in the blog). Now, that's brave and I guess being responsible.

Back to these MLM's junks, I just dont understand why people can't see through the false claims and lies. The so-called miracle wonders that can cure everything from cancer to almost everything under the sun. Bullocks! They do not need rocket science to understand how such thing works. And some even dare to use various hadith and Quran verses just to prove their points or rather to entice gullible people to actually believe their sale pitch and hand over their hard-earned cash (sometimes life-savings) to buy these useless junks. But I guess, lots of people are gullible and plain lazy.Do have a read at the blog and share with others. And don't be shock with his language though but then again, may be that's the only way how to knock some sense to these die-hard MLM scammers.

DuniaPrivasi

I AM BACK !

2011-06-01T21:49:00.005+08:00

I miss writing. Well blogging rather.

So here 's to another new chapter of this blog of ours.

We shall see how it goes from here. It might be another hiatus that last for a year after this post but who cares. I know no one blogs as much as before anymore. Even my blog list is so pitiful that I resort to reading political blogs. Not good, not good indeed.

Anyway, much has happened after the last post. It is almost one freaking (freaking being my favorite word at the moment, btw) year. So it's 2011 already. And I have entered another decade to my age. Hell Yeah ! I did have a party on my birthday but I think since this is such a significant number, I deserve to have more than one. So I am planning one at the moment. Maybe after my London trip. We shall see. I am expecting more presents too. Just to give another chance to those who missed the previous party. Heee.

Oh ya, Today is a new day for me somehow. I finished the freaking thesis at 6 this morning to be exact. Haven't slept a wink since yesterday or was it the previous day. And I am still wide awake. Hungry too. And btw, the thesis, it's not mine. And that's another story for another day. Maybe.

So what am I up to next? I am going to be a poet. Hell yeah, I am. Well atleast I am going to try. A POET! And wait for this...... It is going to be in Malay. Gasp! Shock! Horror! Haha. Well, don't be. I love poetry. I admire people who could create lines and lines of words and form such beautiful meanings. My dad was one. So maybe, just maybe there is some in me. He wrote beautiful poetries. He went by the pen name Noorwira Zain. Zain was my grandad's name. I better search for them. Wonder where they are now.

Just to share one that I read today.

Sepi Meruntuhkan Airmata

by Lembayung

heningnya kalbu begitu kelam

memikat gundahnya hati

tarian pilu menyerang dengan

girangnya

tangan ini berusaha

menggapai…

namun semua berpaling dan

meninggalkan…

rintihan bathin kian mengiris

tapi tak ada yang peduli…

Sepi….

Sakit….

rasa itu membuncah

menghancurkan

menenggelamkan rasa yang kian

terpuruk

kelumpuhan pada seluruh

bagian otak mulai menumpul

pekikan girang sang kegelapan

menyengat tajam

“Selamat datang dikehidupanku

wahai luka dan nestapa”

naluri terkikis perih asa

perlahan_lahan memudar

isak tangis runtuh berguguran

“Selamat tinggal cinta,,

menepilah bersama gugurnya

airmata”

Sigh ! I love.

Till then

A SLICE OF THE PAST - MY HMMM

2010-09-04T02:36:00.002+08:00

Something from the past - the only thing saved.

Hmmm

Time has changed the tune and rhythm

When I mention I love you..... .hmmm

When I mention I miss you..... hmmm

When I mention I want you...... hmmm

When I mention I need you...... hmmm

A hmmm that I received have turn around

To reciprocate what I had hope before

Turning into pure love which surround

Precious moments which has no flaw

A hmmm that surrounds my life altogether

Step by steps from where we had started

Nurturing trusting and loving one another

To a point of no return already stated

A hmmm I will always sought to remember

To bring along with me down memory lane

A love I'm still hoping and holding together

Loving each other still with burning flame

Aku Ingin Pulang - Epilog perjalanan Hidup

2010-03-24T11:04:00.006+08:00

Tuhan

Aku ingin pulang

Pada masa lampau yang tanpa noda dan dosa

Pada jiwa yang suci

Aku ingin kembali

Pada detik hati yang ikhlas

tanpa riak

tanpa maksud tersembunyi

Aku ingin mengenal semula

erti cinta

erti hidup

erti bahagia

Yang abadi.

Aku ingin pulang

Pada aku yang dulu.

Okay.... I am awesome as always !

Private World

Forgiveness

2010-02-14T15:51:00.004+08:00

I heard the news. Somehow hearing it this time around made me realise how I was really chasing after a shadow. You would never catch up and even if you did, things would not change. It would still be the same ending. So, I hope this time, it will make sense. But habit dies hard. It will not be easy.

But I made my first step though. I learn how to forgive. I can't forget of course but I can forgive. It is liberating to say the least. I got my anxiety for not able to control or to take charge but I told myself to hold on. And I did. Though, for a moment, I thought I was conquering all my demons. Not all. But some. I think for now, I just have to learn to lower down my defence and give hope some chance. I don't want to be scared anymore. I don't want to hide anymore. So I am going out there and take my chances.

So how to sign up for the hooters?

Private World

Backpain

2010-02-07T13:37:00.005+08:00

I found myself confine to the bed .... not for any lustful activities of course. But of back pain. It started last Thursday out of the blue and came Friday, I could not move at all. Plus, I was nursing a cold. Sneezing, coughing and back pain are not good friends, let me tell you that.

Of course seeing a doctor was out of the question. Never like them and never will. Had to call my usual masseur to come over because I could not even walk, let alone drive.

It was a bit better just now. Just a tingling of pain which I was trying to ignore by keeping myself busy. But I should have known better that rearranging furniture was not going to make the pain go away but rather making it blantantly obvious. Sometimes, I often wonder at my level of intellegence. Urghh OH MY BACK !

So I am back on the floor. Contemplating if I should go out and get some food. I am home alone. Hmm maybe I just go rummage something from the fridge. But wait.. that means I have to go downstairs! Okay maybe I will just google for some food and maybe that will ease this hunger pang.

People save me!

Private Angst

Rules of the thumb !

2010-01-21T07:53:00.003+08:00

A classic Jagong Joke... but check out these Fun Facts About the Human Body

•It takes your food seven seconds to get from your mouth to your stomach.

•One human hair can support 3kg (6.6 lb).

•The average man’s penis is three times the length of his thumb.

•Human thighbones are stronger than concrete.

•A woman’s heart beats faster than a man’s.

•There are about one trillion bacteria on each of your feet.

•Women blink twice as often as men.

•The average person’s skin weighs twice as much as the brain.

•Your body uses 300 muscles to balance itself when you are standing still.

•If saliva cannot dissolve something, you cannot taste it.

•Women reading this will be finished now.

•Men are still busy checking their thumbs.

So what's the verdict?

Private World

When Karma Comes Knocking !

2010-01-05T13:54:00.003+08:00

I do believe in Karma. What goes around comes around and what goes up must come down. I guess it is some sort of a reminder that life is about balance. But somehow, life can be so effing unfair. Just look around us. Some people has it good all the times. Some people needs to remind themselves that it is okay to work like a dog and just to accept whatever crumbs thrown your way.

Some of us requires to do a lot of sacrifices- time is never ours, family is never a priority, and forget about having decent holidays. And what do we get in return? Lets just say, we have been tested our patience to the limits and it is growing thin. I seriously hope Karma would take a bite soon enough. They seriously need a reality slap on the face and some sense knock into their brains.

Private Angst

My New year Celebration.

2010-01-01T23:19:00.003+08:00

The new year is here. The blue moon was not that blue but it was a clear full moon.

Ate too much seafood. Had to walk around the lagoon to make room for second round.

The firework was awesome.

The headache was a killer.

Too much of a good thing all at once, I guess.

The Balinese massage was great. Hit the right spot. But the masseur could not stop talking. But she was friendly.

Bowling was fun. My team won twice. Yuhuuu. Lets just say I still got my skill.

Food was a repeat at the Atrium tonight. But we had great laughs. Lets just say some of us are a wee bit darker than usual. That's what you get for kayaking at noon.

As for the rest of the stay, I am going to sleep.

Hope you guys have great new year celebrations too.

Private World

2010

2009-12-31T00:01:00.001+08:00

HAPPY NEW YEAR
2010

Much Love

Private World

Jumble Mumble and Everything Else

2009-12-29T10:20:00.003+08:00

2010 is just around the corner. In fact it is just another 2 days away before we say good bye to 2009. Another long weekend for us here in Brunei after Muharam and Xmas Weekend. I love December this year.

So what's the plan for the new year? My family will be staying at Empire Hotel for 4 days and 3 nights. Yuhuuuu... we got everything planned. Dinner at Pantai new year's eve (with fireworks!), SPA, bowling, movie and dinner at Li Gong the next day, beach activities the next day and the next. Looks like we are going to need another holiday to recover from this coming weekend.

2009 - It has been uneventful but then again the uneventful is eventful. Errr.. well for starter - 2009 has been hit by H1N1 which caused most of the big events in Brunei to be cancelled - The birthday celebration in July, Raya @ Istana. It was kind of weird to most of us who used to be working during these times. In fact, I slept and stayed in during raya. My open house was a bit subdued too. Though my fireworks were still awesome! Tee heee...

What do I wish for the new year? A partner. More Money. A house. And Africa. A tall order. But I want them all! So here's to 2010 - May it brings success in career and business, A love returns, Dreams coming true and adventure of a life time. To me.

And oh.. all the best to you guys too.

Much Love
Private World

Congratulations to AHHA

2009-12-26T14:52:00.001+08:00

A DAUGHTER !

Congratulation Dad. And good luck ! You are going to need it!

Much Love

Private World and The Entire Jagong Clan

Merry Christmas

2009-12-25T00:11:00.003+08:00

Merry Christmas Everyone !

I will be having roast dinner later. Yummy !

I broke somebody's heart tonight......

2009-12-23T23:43:00.001+08:00

In secret we met--
In silence I grieve
That thy heart could forget,
Thy spirit deceive.
If I should meet thee
After long years,
How should I greet thee?--
With silence and tears.

Lord Byron

Rambling of a beautiful mind

2009-12-15T20:47:00.003+08:00

Oopss!I did it again!.. well in this case HE did it again. And ME being me, the tortured emotional soul that I am (ladidadida).. I am!, had a panic attack, stressed myself out one evening until my blood pressure drops and puts me in a breathless state [the period didn't help either.. logical mood was way off]. Until I remember my 'new understanding' to life brought me to my sane mode and I hold on to my strength. I put on celine dion's number 'I'm Alive' and starts doing my own concert. IT FELT DAMN GOOD!! And now I'm feeling better and larger than I was. I really feel good about myself. So whatever it is that HE wants to proof by doing it AGAIN, fine by me. I knew from the very first it wasn't perfect so I'm not expecting a perfect ending. I'm just disappointed that he hasn't tell me anything despite everything that was said and done.

All I know is that my feelings are very clear to me and because of that I am not afraid anymore, even if I have to lose him again. I have a blessed life & Allah's always protected me. I told HIM that but I guess he still doesn't understand what I meant...

In that ever changing personalities/mood swings, loud behaviour, his massive ego.. I know he has his own fears and demons to conquer. In his mind, I am not the perfect woman in his imperfect life to make his world right again.

I love him, truely I do. Whatever happens I know I have done my best under the circumstance and I have no regret. Not this time....

When You Thought I Wasn't Looking

2009-12-11T23:21:00.000+08:00

When you thought I wasn't looking,

I felt you kiss me good night,

And I felt loved.

When you thought I wasn't looking,

I saw tears come from your eyes,

And I learned that sometimes things hurt,

But it's all right to cry.

When you thought I wasn't looking,

I saw that you cared

And I wanted to be everything that I could be.

When you thought I wasn't looking,

I looked ...

And wanted to say thanks for all the things I saw

When you thought I wasn't looking.

Author Unknown

Regrets

2009-12-11T23:12:00.002+08:00

I have many regrets.

And I would make a thousand more so that I can love again.

With you.

Private World

The One

2009-12-10T00:38:00.004+08:00

It is kind of a strange day today. Everything seems to be in slow motion and I could seriously see my life passing me by. It got me melancholy, sad and a whole of other emotions. Oftimes, got teared up. Don't know. Would like to think it's the time of the month but it is not.

It didn't help either by watching a rerun of Sex and the City - it was the episode where Carrie and Mr. Big broke up. At the end of the episode, Carrie mentioned about having fate on finding The One.

The One. How can you be so sure? How do you know? What is exactly The One?

Is it someone who you fall in love and live happily ever after? But that's fairy tales. Nobody lives happily ever after. Nobody.

Is it your soul mate? But what is a soul mate? How can a soul know its mate?

God, these questions are killing me. One after another and they seem to be no answers.

I guess I just have to stop asking and wondering.... May be that would keep me sane. May be that is the best answer.

C'est La Vie

Private Angst

Another Trip

2009-12-08T14:37:00.004+08:00

I am on a long working assignment at the moment. To a country that is not on majority's list of places to visit. I have been here before. My first impression then was exactly how it is now. Not much I could remember during that visit except for my room being haunted. That was pretty scary! Baik jua inda memajal wah hantunya ani macam hantu thailand ah! Erk!

This time, we are staying at 5 stars hotel (by this country standard of course). I was informed to lower down my standards a bit more. Hahahaa. It is true. But I could see huge potentials in this country. It has its charms, its exotic attractions, etc. Infact, this hotel belongs a Malaysian businessman. I met the whole family. One of the sons is so handsome but seriously gay. The day I met him, he was wearing this traditional costumes in bright green with a rather spiky sandals. That attire and the diamond earrings are the dead giveaways. But enjoyed his company nonetheless.

Back to the potentials, this country is definitely has a lot to offer in terms of business oppurtunities. The infrastructure for one thing. And oh proper shopping malls or deparmental stores. Even supermarket. The city has only mini markets. It's like kedai Lingka di Brunei equivalent bah. Hmm.. wonder how easy it is to set up businesses here.

Anyway, got more days to go. Let's see what else we would discover here.

Much Love

Private World

Random Sunday Blog

2009-11-29T16:43:00.004+08:00

This is going to be a lot of random blogging. For starter, Qush's birthday went well. The usual crowd - Jagong Friends. Was talking to my sister Nannie about us - Jagong. We have been friends since year 2000 and we are still together 9 years later. Now that's friendship! Though we have lost a few along the way either through fall out and even death but we have presevere. Chewah. Some of us are mum and dad or dad-to-be. Some of us still trying to make things work. Some has gone places in their careers but all in all it has been some journey.

Oh ya, back to the birthday celebration, my family gave Qush his birthday cupcakes. OMG, the trials of getting it safely to qush was close to a nightmare. Near mishaps and spills. A close call indeed. Hope you loved the cupcakes Qush. Will upload once I got a photo (curi from FB).

On a different note, was reading a rather disturbing news. Dubai could not pay its debt. Estimated Dubai’s debt is $80 billion. What does this mean to the world economy? A disaster on the already fragile world economic recovery. This means 2010 is going to be another economic crisis. What really happen in Dubai? I guess, that's for allowing greed to take control - the tallest, the biggest, outlandish creations! Sometimes it pays to be humble. And this also means weak US$. Oh man... not good. Not good indeed. I am already losing a lot at the current exchange rate.

Oh Selamat Hari Raya Aidil Adha dear friends. I did an open house for family as usual. Maybe next year I will extend it to friends Insya Allah. I am thinking of new year's celebration already now and all the end-of-year luncheons. And I am hoping to get my fireworks for the new year! The new supplier was great during the last raya. I got all new ones this year! Weee heeee.. Kalah my neighbour. Erks.. I didn't mean that in the wickest sense. :)

Much Love

Private World

Birthday Shout to Qush

2009-11-26T01:52:00.003+08:00

HAPPY BIRTHDAY QUSH !

Much Love

Private World and The Jagong Clan

To Those I Care

2009-11-22T13:30:00.004+08:00

I stumbled upon a site. This caught my attention.

' We make them cry who care for us,

We cry for those who never care for us

And we care for those who will never cry for us '

How so true! We always care for the wrong person and choose to ignore those that care for us.

We tend to take them for granted.

And put those that do not care on a pedestal.

Will I ever learn anything from this?

Perhaps it is not too late.

Much Love

Private World

Detours

2009-11-18T15:52:00.003+08:00

I was talking to my online friend last night. Well he is more of a brother now after years of trying to entice me to be his love slave went haywired. Hahaha. And now, to compensate for that, all he does is to nag me all the times. What a nag he is. I eat lekor for days, he nags, I stay at home for days, he nags, I breathe, he nags.... well you got the point there.

But I guess in some way, I need some slap in the face honesty sometimes. Oftimes, we think we are always the victim, we are the one who suffers the most, sacrifice the most, yada, yada, yada... (but We do!)

He knows what's going on in most of my relationships and my life, we went through the fun, the ordeals and some of the errr how shall i say this delicately, errr i guess we leave it at that. The point is he knows me. The real me. The me who put so much bravado to the whole world while at the same times he knows I am cringing with fears and lack of confidence inside. He knows my secret fear, he knows my weaknesses and he knows my strength. It scares me that he can know me so well.

So, last night, we got talking. He said things that I have been to scare to admit. I knew it but I just refuse to face it. I guess I finally did last night.

His advice - Detour! Detour from the usual path, the usual thinking, the usual self-pity etc. It is about making a detour and enjoying a different self realisation. I admit I have been cruel. I was not a victim all the times. It is me that has to change my perspective and outlook on life and people in general. I have to do this, not just to myself but those who confessed to love me. Maybe they do honestly love me.

Thanks Joe!

Much love

Private World.

Do They Know?

2009-11-08T22:10:00.002+08:00

I was congratulated for someone's excellent achievement a few days ago.

Wonder if they actually know something?

Hmmm....

ASS-IGNMENTS!

2009-11-05T13:44:00.004+08:00

Need I say more?

ARSEHOLES AT WORK

2009-11-02T23:33:00.003+08:00

A heed of Warning - This post is written in anger. Pardon the expletive words.

You see, I got a function this evening. The usual function with the usual arrangement which I have been doing for the past 4 years. Routine work. I did my part with the same checklist. Everyone on my list was reminded. Until 5 minutes before departure - something was amissed. Called someone to check if a reminder was made. Yes. Infact I was there this afternoon when this person reminded this somebody.

Well this somebody, whom I shall named - BLOODYFUCKING SORRY EXCUSE OF A MAN (BFSEOAM in short) is a secretary to some HIGH MIGHTY WHO THINKS HE IS GOD (HMWTHIG in short) actually forgot to do his checklist, And of course he would not admit to any mistake because BFSEOAM thinks he is so fucking perfect that he would never makes mistake. But of course he fucking did!

So you know what he did? OOOf course he got to find a scape goat whom he could place the blame on, which is Me, being the obvious choice. Not only that, he scolded me for informing him that late. He said JANGAN MAIN TAI (geez i dont even know what he meant by this) and actually said I should remind him all the times. OHHHHHH FUCKING HELL! Like since when ever I had to remind him. It has been 4 fucking years. Why now???!!!! It is obvious that his fucked up this time and wanted to cover his arse.

God, this is the kind of people I am working with and these are the people at the realm of power. I dont need this shit seriously! The system sucks!

Private Angst

I Hate Love

2009-11-01T18:32:00.002+08:00

"Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up.

You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...

You give them a piece of you.

They didn't ask for it.

They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore.

Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain.I hate love."

- Neil Gaiman ( b.1960)

DINNER -SATURDAY 23rd. May @ 8 p.m.

2009-05-18T10:44:00.003+08:00

DEAR JAGONGIANZZ

YOU ALL HAVE TO ADMIT - WE ARE REALLY OUT OF TOUCH WITH EACH OTHER . AND IT HAS BEEN A LONG TIME SINCE WE DID ANYTHING FOR SATURDAY NIGHT.

SO HERE IS THE PLAN

DATE : 23rd May, Saturday @ 8 p.m.

VENUE : My Crib

THEME : WHITE !

BYOF AND BYOD AS USUAL !

Belated Birthday Shout to Rina

2009-05-18T10:03:00.002+08:00

HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY GIRL !

13th. May - Birthday Shout to Leena B

2009-05-14T11:47:00.004+08:00

Happy Birthday Babe!

May your life be as beautiful as you are !

Much Love

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End of blogging for me

2009-04-08T19:40:00.005+08:00

Somehow I always feel I am on a lone journey.

So this is the end for me....

I am moving on to another blog. Mine and My Own.

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Animal Abused

2009-04-07T20:10:00.001+08:00

They sure start em young! Poor Kitty !

MY RETIREMENT PLAN

2009-04-03T22:58:00.009+08:00

I was talking to someone a few days ago. The topic was on retirement and how this person and her husband planned to retire abroad. Spefically, in Perth, Australian. They bought a house and was actually living there for a year before the husband was called home for errr "duty".

The talk about retirement got to me. Well I still got a long way to go before reaching my retirement age. The plan then was to retire and enjoy the fruits of my sweats, blood and tears -my pension. But then reality struck. Yeah what pension?!! The TAP? The way, it is going now, I don't think I would have enough money to survive on just a daily basis.

I never thought about migrating outside of the country until now. Why?

Well, I have lived all my life here in Brunei (except for those years of getting myself educated). So I need to spent the rest of my remaining years at a place where it feels like a holiday everyday.

Where?

Bali, Indonesia.

I always love Bali. Been there a few times. Plus I want to live by the river or a lake and among the paddy fields. Imagine waking up everyday to views of the green paddy field and the chirping of the birds. Breakfast would be served outdoor by the infiniti pool or just lounging on the day-bed. And the day would pass by getting ready for endless dinner parties - outside, of course on the floating barge by the lake (which belongs to me of course) or going down to all the fancy restaurants and cafes in Bali.

And other days would be filled by other activitis - soaking myself with the culture and arts. I might even want to take up painting. Who knows!

And oh the spa. I could have my own masseurs attending to all my needs. Can you imagine? Bliss! I always thought that I am always a kampung girl and never a city girl. So, spending the remaining years in a kampung setting - it would feel like coming home.... for the final time.

However, I got one more place where I want to retire. Mecca or Medina. Maybe not the city itself. Jeddah perhaps. I guess this is for the spiritual part of me. Plus I want to lead my remaining life veiled. I mean totally veiled - purdah and all. Hhhahaa. Seriously. When I did my umrah before - I got myself the face veil. Somehow - I like being invisible.

So what do you think of my retirement plan?

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I Love You, but I'm Not in Love with You !

2009-04-01T15:26:00.003+08:00

Something I found from the internet. Just thought this is interesting and some of us might want to hear this.

DEAR MARGO: I am a 23-year-old woman who is dating a 47-year-old man. Age never has been an issue with us. We get along wonderfully and share so many things. About three months into our relationship (we've been together for one and a half years) I told him I was in love with him. He said he "loved me, but would never be in love with me." He has been hurt in the past and still feels bitter about his last girlfriend, a woman he describes as a "manipulative user." I feel at this point he is "in love" with me but doesn't want to admit it to himself. Is it too much for me to expect to hear the words from his mouth? Or should I just leave it alone?

OUT OF MY MIND

DEAR OUT: Honey, you are wasting your time. I am so tired of the dodge "I love you, but I am not in love with you" I could scream. That is such a crock. What it means, in plain English, is that you are not his heart's desire, but he's happy to kill time with you ... in the sack. I would tell him to take a hike and send him off with the hope that at some point he can distinguish the "manipulative users" from the women of worth. You are too young to cling to a bitter, middle-aged man whose fears have immobilized him.

MARGO

10 THINGS NOT TO DO WHEN YOU ARE BORED.

2009-03-30T00:18:00.001+08:00

How often you end up feeling bored and you got absolutely nothing to do. You can’t go out because all your friends / siblings are busy with their own stuff or you just can’t be bothered to dress up and go out anyway. Well rest assured, I have fully tested advices on what NOT to do when you are bored (most are based on life experience – mine mostly unfortunately)

1. Never ever read old emails. It can lead to realization how stupid / corny / cheesy you and the other party can be. I have deleted all my emails. Those love err emails were so embarrassing and like seriously corny! (Muntah hijau)

2. Never attempt to organize your wardrobes because you will end up with baskets and baskets of DEFINITELY KEEP, MAYBE, MAYBE WHEN I LOST WEIGHT, MAYBE THE FASHION WILL COME BACK (notice there is no THROW basket in there)

3. On the same note, NEVER TRY TO ORGANISE YOUR BEDROOM because, unless you have a lot of time on your hands and 5 more maids, the project will still not finish a week later and your room will look like it has been hit by a tornado.

4. DON’T ever attempt to estimate total costs of your bags (forget the shoes for the moment) because believe me, it is not worth it. Just repeat this mantra – IT’S AN INVESTMENT. IT’S AN INVESTMENT. Maybe you can hypnotize yourself and actually believe it.

5. DON’T GO SHOPPING – You might end up with unnecessary things like the 197th spice (which you don’t actually use), an egg whip that cost the same as a new pair of shoes because seriously your scrambled eggs look better scrambled (yeah I know!), the 2,318th (and counting) black evening bags (which then you will sell to your 4 years old niece for a mere $5 –which is a minute percent of the actual price), more notebooks because hey you got to look snappy for the meetings – maybe it should match my bags.. hmmm) and on and on. So don’t go shopping full-stop because it is vely vely dangerous.

6. DON’T SCROLL YOUR PHONE’S DIRECTORY. You remember names and you remember people and you decide to call up and say hi. That leads to another and another and ends up the same way it ended before. SO WHY FUCKING BOTHER REPEATING THE SAME MISTAKES! Urghhhhhhhhhh!

7. DON’T EAT - I think this goes without saying.

8. DON’T EVEN ATTEMPT AT GARDENING when you don’t even know a shovel from errr another garden tools and at most you are just instructing your maid from the comfort of an air-con room. The hat does not exactly provide you much shelter from the sun you know.

9. DON’T EVEN TRY TO BE DOMESTICATED coz Domestic Goddess you will never be. Leave it the professional.

10. LAST BUT NOT LEAST – DON’T BLOG. You end up writing useless things like 10 Things what not to do when you are bored!

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HAPPY 29th BIRTHDAY ROSIE

2009-03-29T14:36:00.006+08:00

A BIRTHDAY SHOUT TO ROSIE ON HER BITHDAY TODAY !

MAY IT BRINGS THE BESTEST LIFE'S PLEASURE.

As for the Earth Hour, How did we celebrate it?

Well it was tough at first because we were still cooking!

Switching the TV was the hardest for them. A compromise was reached though. We got the radio on.

We had candle light dinner.

Though some people had their dessert first (my sister bought the donuts from Bakerlyn - I guess the explain the flash dissappearance of the donuts)

As for the rest of the evening.....

Flashing the disco light. The kids had fun trying to catch the dancing lights.

Trying to sing along with the songs - Thank god I dont have Karaoke. Or else we know who would be holding on the mic all night long.

Photo camwhoring Galore ! Qush - I want copies of the pictures please. Thanks much!

And of course - Birthday cake for Rosie. Though she didn't get to blow the candles the first time. U gotta be quick next time Rosie. The twins will beat you to the candles again.

All in all - it was fun. Though AF still featured as the entertainment at the end.

So thank you guys for coming and a fun evening. And oh.. we got 8 days old guest too.

Presenting Baby Mohammad Faresh Aqel.

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REMINDER - EARTH HOUR

2009-03-27T21:51:00.002+08:00

EARTH HOUR

28th. March

From 830 p.m. to 930 p.m.

Dinner at my place

Bring your pretty self!

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Cinta

2009-03-25T00:22:00.004+08:00

How many of us has fallen in and out of love? Admit it, far too many times for our own goods right?

Unless, cinta itu cinta yang kehujung nyawa (haha sounds like a crappy song). Do you consider that as cinta sejati? Eternal love? Mungkin ya. But for me, ia lebih dari itu. Ianya cinta yang tiada meminta balasan. Cinta yang menerima segala qada dan qadar. Cinta yang berkorban walau rindu membara dan tangisan yang tidak berpenhujung. Everything hurts. What a fool you say?

It is not as if you have control seriously. Sometimes, the heart and the mind have their own agenda. Being rational is never an option.

Cintaku ke hujung nyawa. I can't anymore.

Private Angst

Whoaaoaoaoaa.. deep!!!

REMEMBER THIS DATE 28th MARCH @ 830 p.m. - EARTH HOUR

2009-03-21T22:35:00.004+08:00

Once a year, the world unites to conserve energy by switching off the lights for one hour. This year, it will be on Saturday 28th March starting from 8.30 p.m. until 930 p.m.

Let's join everyone around the world. A litte effort is just what it takes but this little effort will go a long way.

Anyway I am planning a small dinner at home. Candle light galore! Forget AF for one saturday. Come and join me for this one night. Dont forget to switch off the lights at your home too.

More info at http://www.earthhour.org/home/

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Future is ...

2009-03-18T21:57:00.001+08:00

Mengapa gadis-gadis sekarang suka bercinta dengan suami orang?

2009-03-16T20:59:00.003+08:00

Saya sedang sibuk membuat kerja di atas meja makan di rumah tadi, barangkali iklan atau pengumuman saya tak pasti, tapi apa yang saya dengar adalah seperti tajuk di atas - Mengapa gadis-gadis sekarang suka bercinta dengan suami orang?

Saya sangat teruja untuk membincangkan tentang perkara ini. Adakah ianya satu fakta atau sebaliknya. Mana bukti-buktinya?

Melalui perhatian saya, memang ada sikit kebenaran mengenainya. Mengapa saya berani berkata begitu? Mungkin naluri wanita saya? Atau mungkin juga pengalaman sendiri? Itu tidak penting. Yang penting apakah tarikan lelaki yang sudah bergelar suami ini dimata gadis-gadis ini dan seterusnya mengapa lelaki yang bergelar suami ini menjadi pilihan segelintir mereka? Berikut mungkin adalah sebahagian sebabnya:

Bersikap matang - Sikap matang lelaki yang tidak keanak-anakkan mungkin menjadi daya tarikan. Matang dari segi tindakannya, dari segi fiziknya. Malah, bagi saya sendiri, lelaki yang mantang dalam pemikirannya adalah 'sexy' Itu bagi saya. Perbincangan yang 'stimulating the brain' amat saya sukai.
Pandai berkata-kata - Seperti kata pepatah - lidah tidak bertulang'. Perempuan dengan nalurinya yang lemah, mudah cair dengan kata-kata yang dimainkan oleh sang lelaki. Ini adalah alatan yang mudah saja bagi seorang yang bergelar lelaki. Ianya seperti 'natural talent' bagi mereka.
Pandai Memanjakan wanita - Wanita mana yang tidak mahu dimanja dan dibelai dan dilimpahi dengan syurga dunia. Ini lagi taktik yang sudah menjadi strategi bagi lelaki untuk mengambil hati. Sikap mereka yang murah hati dengan wang dan masa mereka. Ya lah.. wanita mana yang tak mahu jadi tumpuan utama seorang lelaki yang sanggup melakukan apa saja untuk dia. Tidak seperti sebahagian lelaki bujang yang hanya pentingkan diri sendiri dan sangat kedekut.
Simpati - Lelaki amat mudah mengunakan taktik ini untuk mengambil perhatian seorang wanita. Bermain dengan simpati untuk menunjukkan betapa ianya tidak berbahagia didalam perkahwinannya, betapa jiwanya kosong kerana isterinya yang sibuk dengan anak-anak sepanjang masa tanpa menghiraukan dirinya (Saya kata bodoh lah wanita yang percaya cerita begini!) Tapi hakikatnya taktik meraih simpati inilah menjadi alat yang paling penting untuk memenangi hati seorang wanita. Dari simpati timbul sayang dan seterusnya.

Banyak lagi alasan-alasan mengapa suami orang menjadi pilihan gadis-gadis dan wanita-wanita. Naluri seorang wanita untuk disayangi dan begitu jua naluri lelaki. Memang betul kata mereka - It takes two to tango. So each to their own medicine.

Dunia Tersendiri

Death by Viagra ?

2009-03-12T23:46:00.003+08:00

Hmmm..

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Maulidur Rasul

2009-03-09T16:10:00.003+08:00

Selamat Menyambut Hari Maulidur Rasul or better known as Maulud Nabi here in Brunei.

This is the birthday of our junjungan besar , Muhammad Rasulullah s.a.w. He was born on 12 Rabiul Awwal , the year of the elephant on 23 April 571M.

I remember when I was still in school. There would be a big parade in town. It was something that we always looked forward to. We would march and recite selawat along the route. It was hot, it was tiring but it was fun! Oftimes, it was like a mini race. What I always remember is daging rendang and nasi minyak my mum would serve us for lunch on that day!

Things have changed though. The women are no longer joining the crowd in bandar. Well for the parade anyway. Good or bad? No comment!

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On Giving Up

2009-03-04T20:03:00.004+08:00

There are times when we just need to give up

Just quit and walk away

Not being a loser

But, because it keeps you sane.

SUCH A BIG DISSAPPOINTMENT

2009-02-24T10:47:00.003+08:00

The National Day !

THE 25th NATIONAL DAY to be exact.

The marching was too long.

The persembahan was lousy.

And not to mention far too many photographers. Ewwww

The previous years were much better.

What happen?

No budget perhaps or someone, somewhere just wish to save some money and claim a clean record before departing perhaps?

Now I got nothing to brag about!

25 years! & That was it?

Well that does reflect what the country has achieved !

Private Angst

Flavoured Condoms

2009-02-15T00:06:00.006+08:00

I am curious..

You know those condoms that come with flavour : chocolate, strawberry, excetera excetera. I am just wondering - like what's the actual purpose of having these flavoured condoms really?

Do you give BLOW JOB with a condom on? So atleast you can taste it?

If you use it for sex - what's the flavour for again?

Hmmm

It boggles the mind

My name is Private World

MY GUIDE ON LIVING ON THE FAST LANE - AND STILL ENJOYING A BUSY SOCIAL LIFE AND OCCASIONAL SEX --HUHUU.

2009-02-10T20:41:00.008+08:00

How often we keep saying we are far too busy with work that we ignore those people that matter to us. Our families, friends, the cats (or dogs or hamsters or whatever your pet(s) may be). How often we moan that we do not have a life apart from work (not that work is paying u enough moolah -sucks)

So anyway, I have come out with some guidelines on LIVING ON THE FAST LANE AND STILL ENJOYING A BUSY SOCIAL LIFE AND OCCASIONAL SEX -HUHUUU..

NEVER SLEEP. 8 hours of sleep is a waste of times. Imagine the number of people that you could meet within 8 hours? Multiply that 7 days a week. 4 weeks a month and 48 weeks a year! U do the maths! My brain cells could not just be bothered with such trivial matters.

MULTI-TASK - Set your meetings in a cafe or any famous joints. You got your work done and got to meet all like-minded friends. Trust me - one of my breakfast meetings in one cafe in Qlap saw me having 3 meetings done in one morning (2 were at the same times). Chaotic sure but that's what multi-tasking all about.

Always Dine out especially with family - somehow you tend to spend hours on dinner and catch up on news even though they live with you. Hahaha..

Plan events , parties or just any excuse for a gathering - like the first visible full moon in so many weeks or Crab Session on the floor armed with a hammer or whatever devices (pliers, anak lesung). Planning is part of the fun.

Never let RAIN, SICK (FLU WILL NOT KILL), LATE HOURS, HEADACHES, BEING TIRED, A SICK OR DYING BF/GF OR WHATEVER (except DEATH or WORK) as PITIFUL EXCUSES NOT to go out.

COMMUNICATE - Everyone got phone right? A little Hi would suffice! Oh ya.. phone sex is fun ( just don't be too truthful - just say you wear the sexiest boxer rather than kain sarong - A TOTAL TURN-OFF - not speaking from experience of course)

SPICE UP YOUR LIFE - illicit affair with a married man/woman, or a lesbian affair with that malaysian lady who just got her Phd and the first thing she wants to do when she sees you is to..... err too much info but anyway.. SPICE UP YOUR LIFE. It's interesting how danger can sexcite you.

Plan multiple weddings! - ENOUGH SAID!

So there - my guidelines on LIVING ON THE FAST LANE AND STILL ENJOYING A BUSY SOCIAL LIFE AND OCCASIONAL SEX. HUHUU. If you still are not convince, maybe this will ...

DON'T WORK TOO HARD. NOBODY NOTICES ANYWAY.

My Name is Private World

STUPID AMERICANS

2009-02-02T21:53:00.006+08:00

The level of stupidity and ignorance are too astounding to believe ! But it is for real ! WACTH THIS!

Life is a Wonderful journey and sight

2009-01-27T19:55:00.005+08:00

The Universe is a big space, No one can really imagine just how big the size is. NO ONE! Even the most powerful man or nation on earth cannot compete on the magnitude of what Allah has created. But one thing is for sure, Allah's creation is Absolute Beautiful

Subhanallah.
I am only your humble servant...

Gong Xi Fa Chai

2009-01-25T22:57:00.003+08:00

Times for the Lion Dance, the red Ang Pao and Sweet Mandarin.

Though this time around, it comes with the rain, an eclipse and high tide..

My Name is Private World

How Do You Plan A Perfect Evening?

2009-01-18T00:49:00.004+08:00

Do's

Be Yourself
Don't Try Too Hard

Don'ts

No candlelight dinner for two in an overated restaurant! (Do you want to go moonie eyes infront of the whole restaurant? Believe you me.. it's never romantic)

PERFECT!

- Dinner - cooked together.

- A midnight drive along the highway

- A beach by the moon light...

- Sitting on a rock.

- Talking the night away...

- Rain!

Hahaha But it was still great fun.

U gotta get warm, right ? (Wink!)

Hi.. My Name is Private World

Awakening

2009-01-16T14:50:00.004+08:00

Woke up this err afternoon...................with a smile...

A stirred heart

This is it...

I have found it... and I want it to stay feeling this way...

It has been a long time.

Obnoxious!

Stubborn!

I met a match ! Perfect !

Floating on Air

My Name is Private World

Face the Facts

2009-01-12T15:50:00.004+08:00

Never in our lifetime will there be fairness.

So why bother.... let it be....

The world keeps condemning

Yeah... much help that will do

I give up...

Private World

Israel History since 1878. The Truth About...

2009-01-11T16:34:00.003+08:00

Palestines were not the Nazi, were not responsible for the holocaust, but why are they paying the price? They are being massacred and denied their home land with approval from the United Nation!

BBQ @ Gboy's Place

2009-01-03T10:42:00.005+08:00

We had BBQ at Gboy's house.

Here are my attempts to take pictures of the ladies...

okay they are not ready yet.. Ladies...camera...pose, smile...

Lina is not ready and so is my camera

Aya... Rina.. look here...

LINA!

ah... perfect...

blurr a bit

sangal udah senyum

one last shot... promise

okay they are bored already...

Shot by
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The Last Week of 2008

2009-01-02T11:21:00.008+08:00

The Kit Kat Ice Cream Cake !

The kids almost melted the ice cream cake. They kept wanting to sing and blew the candles !

The Table setting for New Year's Supper

Mudcake - I made this !

Roast Chicken

Firework blasted off! Hmm we still need to work on the camera tricks!

Birthday Dinner for my Bro. He has to baca doa !

One of my brother giving his menacing look ! Yeah right....

Uzi doing her peekaboo.

The table setting for the Birthday Dinner

Xmas Dinner.

The after !

My plate.. roast chicken and roast beef - serve rare

HAVE A GREAT YEAR EVERYONE.

Much Love

Private World

HAPPY NEW YEAR

2009-01-01T01:28:00.004+08:00

Happy New Year !

My family had a blast welcoming the new year... literally! My supplier took pity on me and opened her shop eventhough she was late for her dinner at Empire. So I had fireworks for my new year!

For food, lets see - We had roast chicken, fried noodles, chicken pie,BBQ hotdogs, lots of bubbly, cigar with my siblings and best of all, we had ice cream cake from DQ. Yummy.

So how was 2008 for you guys? Mine? In 4 words... IT COULD BE BETTER!

I have high hope for 2009!

Much Love

Private World

2009

2008-12-31T14:00:00.004+08:00

This year I have decided to have a low key affair to welcome the new year. I am organizing just a small do at home.

You are all welcome to join my family.

Happy New Year Dear Friends...

Private World

p.s. I got cigars to share...

Close your eyes ~

2008-12-30T09:59:00.001+08:00

I remember ....

DOA AKHIR DAN AWAL TAHUN HIJRAH

2008-12-27T13:08:00.002+08:00

DOA AKHIR TAHUN

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim

Segala puji bagi Allah, Tuhan sekelian alam. Selawat dan salam ke atas junjungan besar Nabi Muhammad Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam, ahli keluarga, dan sahabat-sahabatnya.

Ya Allah, telah berlalu setahun dalam hidup kami. Sesungguhnya Engkau telah menganugerahkan kami nikmat-Mu yang tidak dapat kami menjangkau kehebatannya. Engkau telah memelihara kami daripada keburukan yang tidak mampu kami menolaknya. Kami telah melakukan dalam tahun tersebut perbuatan dan amalan yang Engkau Maha mengetahui baik dan buruknya.

Ya Allah, sekiranya amalan tersebut bersesuain dengan ketetapan-Mu, terimalah dan catatkannya sebagai amalan soleh kami di sisi-Mu. Dan sekiranya amalan tersebut berbaur dengan sifat riya', ujub, dan menunjuk-nunjuk atau kami lakukan perilaku dosa, kesalahan dan keinginan yang buruk, maka kami pohon pengampunan-Mu dan tutupilah segala keaiban dan kesalahan. Kurniakanlah ke atas kami kelebihan dan keluasan sifat pemurah-Mu. Itulah kemuncak permintaan dan doa kami.

Ya Allah, sesungguhnya telah datang kepada kami tahun baru setelah kami meninggalkan tahun ini sebentar nanti, kami tidak tahu apakah yang terkandung dalam pengetahuan-Mu mengenai diri kami. Kami jahil ke mana arahnya penghidupan kami di alam maya ini. Harapan kami agar Engkau membuka lembaran tahun baru ini pintu taubat yang jujur dan tulus untuk kami, yang tidak berakhir dengan kekufuran dan kesesatan. Dan Engkau kurniakan taufiq kepada kami pada tahun ini untuk melakukan amalan-amalan soleh yang Engkau redai, kehidupan yang murni yang Engkau rahmati.

Ya Allah, peliharalah anggota kami agar melakukan ketaatan kepada-Mu. Peliharalah hati kami agar dipenuhi dengan kecintaan. Lapangkan hati kami agar dapat kami mendekati-Mu seperti mana Engkau telah lapangkan hati hamba-hamba-Mu yang soleh. Jadikan kami di antara orang-orang yang menepati janji dalam menjalankan hak. Jadikan kehidupan kami sebagai saksi yang benar terhadap setiap amalan seperti mana yang Engkau syariatkan kepada kami, Wahai Tuhan Yang Maha Pemurah, Yang Maha Penganugerah

DOA AWAL TAHUN

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim

Segala puji bagi Allah, Tuhan sekelian alam. Selawat dan salam ke atas junjungan besar Nabi Muhammad Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam, ahli keluarga, dan sahabat-sahabatnya.

Ya Allah, kami menadah tangan kepada-Mu pada waktu malam dan siang dalam keadaan kami bertawassul dengan nama-nama Mu, dalam keadaan kami mengharapkan gedung rahmat yang sarat di samping Mu. Dan dalam keadaan kami cinta sesungguhnya kepada-Mu dan cinta apa yang menghiasi kebesaran-Mu.

Ya Allah, Ya Rabbul Jalil. Dengan sunnah-Mu menjelang kini tahun baru yang telah Engkau tentukan mengikut qada dan qadar di Loh Mahfuz-Mu. Kami meredahnya di bawah Iradah dan Qudrat-Mu. Sebagai makhluk-Mu yang sentiasa mencari keredaan-Mu. Kehadiran tahun baru ini, memungkinkan kami menadah tangan memohon rahman-Mu, kami pertautkan permohonan kami sekental-kentalnya kepada Mu. Kami mengharap perdampingan taufik dan hidayah-Mu yang telah Engkau berikan kepada kami pada masa-masa yang lalu sepanjang usia kami. Engkau sempurnakan perlindungan dan pemberian-Mu yang begitu melimpah kepada kami. Jadikanlah diri kami, hati kami serta seluruh anggota badan kami jati kekuatan, sepertimana Engkau berikan kepada hamba-hamba Mu yang terpilih. Supaya kekuatan ini dapat kami gunakannya sebagai pelindung daripada segala kemungkaran, sama ada yang zahir atau yang batin. Dan dengannya kami dapat kelapangan pemikiran, keindahan kehidupan, kekuatan dalam keyakinan, ketetapan dalam pegangan agama, dan kebaikan untuk diri kami dan orang-orang sekitar kami.

Ya Allah, hindarkan kami daripada segala yang merungsingkan, pemikiran yang membingungkan, pengalaman yang menyedihkan dan menyempitkan dada kami. Kurniakan kepada kami keselamatan dalam pemeliharaan-Mu yang dapat melindung kami dari sebarang kejahatan, keburukan dan kerunsingan.

Ya Allah, rahmatilah permintaan kami, terimalah kepasrahan diri kami kepada-Mu, Wahai Penolong hamba yang meminta pertolongan, tolonglah kami. Wahai Pencegah kemusnahan, hindarilah kami dari kemusnahan dan keporak-perandaan.

Ya Rahman Ya Rahim! Jadikanlah lipatan tahun baru ini pembuka bagi kejayaan, ketenangan yang menyeluruh untuk kami dan kaum Muslimin keseluruhannya memelihara agama-Mu. Hamparkan di dalamnya hamparan rahmat-Mu sepertimana Engkau berikan kepada hamba-hamba Mu yang terpilih. Rahmat yang dapat menghindarkan segala kepayahan dan kerunsingan.

Ya Allah, kekalkanlah tahun-tahun yang akan datang dalam hidup kami dengan catatan kegembiraan, kebahagian dan kelapangan, supaya kami dapat rasakan dalam detik hidup kami kenikmatan yang ada padanya.

Ya Allah, jadikanlah tahun yang akan datang, semulia-mulia tahun yang Engkau berkati ke atas kami. Jadikanlah kami orang yang paling bahagia bersama-Mu.

Ya Allah, ampunkanlah segala kesalahan kami, dan terimalah kebaikan kami, berkatilah masa, waktu dan segala gerak-geri kami.
Wassallalahu Ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa Ala Aalihi wa Sahbihi Wassalam

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W H Y ?

2008-12-21T22:26:00.004+08:00

Why the world is not doing anything about these ?

Click for clearer image and full views of the horror.

These are mere children !

What harm could the child do ? He shoud not go through such nightmare !

Who is the really bully?

They are the innocent victims.
The torn legs!
HOW COULD THEY ?!!!

What have they done to deserve this?

Please. No More...

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A message in the sky

2008-12-19T20:11:00.005+08:00

My brother and his girlfriend went jogging at Dadap this afternoon and captured these images on their handphone. Can you see anything?

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Oh btw - How about that photo shoot? 29th - we can celebrate new year hijrah at the same time?

!@#$%^&!@#$%^&*

2008-12-16T15:20:00.002+08:00

I read a blog entry.

I fucking hate people who assume a lot!

What the history taught us?

2008-12-15T18:24:00.003+08:00

The past weeks have me reading a lot of the world history - from the French Revolution, to the Russian Czar, the Incas civilisation and to Egypt and right down to Melaka and of course Brunei. Interesting readings, scandalized in some and mind boggling the next. Brunei especially - a lot of missing links - like did Sultan Bolkiah has children? He was supposedly murdered by Laila Menchanai. Was the 6th Sultan of Brunei - Sultan Abdul Kahar their child? What happened to the Sultan who died in China and his son? It raised more questions. It was frustrating as there were simply no answers. But what makes it more interesting was the lessons learnt.

No one or a country is invincible

The Incas was supposedly the centre of civilisation and science. It was proven from the amazing architetural wonders of their ancient city. But one day, the city just dissappeared from the face of the earth and was only discovered during the last century. The lost city of Incas showed early development of science which still boggle the mind of scientists today.

And what happen Melaka? It was the center for trade and one of the most powerful countries in its era. Who have not heard the history of Hang Tuah and his friends, the powerful Sultan Melaka and his obsession with Puteri Gunong Ledang. Now, Melaka is the only country in East Malaysia with no royal family. Amazing, isn't it?

Egypt and the Pyramids - One of the wonders of the world. The history of the Sun King, Cleopatra which was filled with stories of powers and immense wealth. Look where egpyt is now?

On a bright side - I wonder where the USA will be in the future? They are riding their glorious days now.

History repeats itself

This goes without saying, what goes around comes around.

Anyway - i still got more reading to do. Next is the Atlantis -a myth?

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Islam and Friendship -

2008-12-12T13:30:00.004+08:00

Went out with the twin and lily last night to get their story books. Decided to go to Bismi since I need to get my magazines too. The place is huge! Obviously I haven't been there for such a long time. They started early selling school books and such. I got tempted to buy a whole lot of stationery for myself and the kids. Feels like going back to school. NOT!!!

We even got ourselves some serious painting stuff. It is going to be messy. But I am already thinking of the corridor as their art gallery. I might have a picasso in the family! Hahaha. We shall see about that. Anyway, bought lots of books for them - sticker books, more ABC, stories book, and some ugama books for the family.

One of the books we found was on Islam and Friendship - familiar story line as we must have heard beforebut with a twist. I share two of the stories.....

The Bear

Two friends were traveling together, when a Bear suddenly met them on their path. One of them climbed up quickly into a tree and concealed himself in the branches. The other, seeing that he must be attacked, fell flat on the ground, and when the Bear came up and felt him with his snout, and smelt him all over, he held his breath, and feigned the appearance of death as much as he could. The Bear soon left him, for it is said he will not touch a dead body.

When the Bear was quite gone, the other friend descended from the tree, and jokingly inquired of his friend what it was the Bear had whispered in his ear. "He gave me this advice," his companion replied. "Never travel with a friend who deserts you at the approach of danger."

The Two Friends

A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face.

The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand:

TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE.

They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him. After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone:

TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE.

The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, "After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?" The other friend replied "When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it."

LEARN TO WRITE YOUR HURTS IN THE SAND AND TO CARVE YOUR BENEFITS IN STONE.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them.

Very profound indeed.

Salam

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Announcement : Come Fine Dining With Me

2008-12-10T22:37:00.004+08:00

Due to ill-health of two of the Jagong and by popular votes, Come Fine Dining With Me has been postponed to Saturday @ Sheraton. 8 p.m.

Thank you.

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Is it real? We know it is...

2008-12-08T16:50:00.006+08:00

My brother took this picture using his HP. He was just clicking away one maghrib when he captured this image. No photoshop or anything. Judge for yourself.

If you look closer, the eyes are missing....

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Aidil Adha

2008-12-07T23:41:00.003+08:00

Saw the Haj pilgrimages on TV just now. We, my family, were stuck in front of the tv and remembered those times. We all have been there before. The journey, the parents who guided us along the way, the people who still remain in contact until now, the funny moments but most of all, the whole experiences - praying in Arafah, tears of repents, the human highway to Mina, the circling Tawaf, running for Saie.

It is hard to describe how it feels until you experience it yourself. We plan to go back there again. The last family trip was 2002. Years ago.

I need to go back. I need to ask for forgiveness. I need to find myself and I have forgotten. I need to remember again.

I said a little prayer just now. I hope God grants them. Insya Allah.

Selamat Hari Raya. Mohonkan keampunan semuanya.

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HATE

2008-12-04T00:38:00.002+08:00

any comment?

Aku Bimbo

2008-11-30T11:52:00.004+08:00

Seriously I tak dapat terima jika ada muka-muka yang seperti awak datang kemari dan mehuru-harakan satu keadaan yang awak sendiri tidak punyak hak untuk perlu tahu.

Awak adalah satu perkara yang paling tidak penting dan sebarang fikiran atau pandangan awak adalah ibarat out-dated and out of fashion pants yang hanya patut di pamirkan di dalam muzium. Tidak kah awak merasa malu di kata terhegeh-hegeh untuk menarik perhatian dan juga secubit publisiti murah?

Saya tahu saya pandai dan beruntung. Awak tak perlu ingatkan saya. Saya dah lama tahu.

Saya tahu saya bimbo. Tapi saya ada otak yang masih waras untuk tidak menjadi as low seperti awak. Lagi pun saya bimbo - bimbo befikiran. Awak apa ada? Jika hanya bergantung pada harta keluarga yang hanya mempunyai bisness yang tak mungkin bawa keuntungan berjuta - janganlah berlagak awak golongan yang terpuji and harus minta dipuji. Saya pun tak mahu cemburu pada keaadan yang awak fikir sangat baik dari yang lain nya.

Makanya, dengan ini saya rasa baik lah awak buangkan masa tu untuk awak fikirkan perkara yang lebih berfaedah dari memikirkan saya yang awak rasa bimbo ini. Saya dah ngaku dah saya Bimbo. So chill..

P.S. Saya bimbo pun dia masih cinta saya. Awak?

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My Mantra

2008-11-29T14:41:00.007+08:00

If you fail once, cheat

If you fail the second time, cheat again

If you fail the third time, YOU ARE SCREWED!

Never lower your standard just because the others can't keep up with you & never live by other people's standard.

If you can't beat them, join them. If you can't join them, to hell.. they ain't cool anyway!

Money can't buy you everything but it sure can pay for the exotic holidays, all the diamonds in the world, the houses of your dreams, the shopping trips, etc. Makes you happy aint it?

Money can't buy you love but it sure can buy you a lot of other things! Who needs love when you have everything.

Live life like it's the end of the world. If you are screwed, you have no time on regret.

Love

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BIRTHDAY SHOUT : QUSH

2008-11-26T22:47:00.002+08:00

Dearest Qush

HAPPY BIRTHDAY! YOU ARE 17 ONLY ONCE SO ENJOY IT WHILE U CAN!

Much Love

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Doa

2008-11-22T20:56:00.004+08:00

Ya Allah

Tenang kan fikiran ku

Sabarkan laku ku

Kurangkan marah ku

Tutupkan aib ku

Amin

This Country of Mine - Brunei

2008-11-18T20:14:00.007+08:00

This country of mine… a rose tinted glass
Roads are paved with gold and money grows on tree.

This country of mine – Living in a mirage
Roads are paved with gold and money grows on tree.

This country of mine - A bubble about to burst
Roads are paved with gold and money grows on tree.

This country of mine - The eye of the storm
Roads are paved with gold and money grows on tree.

This country of mine – a magical illusion
Roads are paved with gold and money grows on tree.

This country of mine – The end of the road
Roads are paved with gold and money grows on tree.

This country of mine – a fairy tale. Happily ever after

Are we living in reality?
Are we living in dreams – technic color dreams?

Think Again!

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I want I lust - Giuseppe Zanotti

2008-11-15T23:15:00.003+08:00

Thou Shalt Not lust

Thou Shalt Not Covet

But I am only human!

An early birthday present perhaps?

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Just incase you are wondering where to get this: http://www.net-a-porter.com/product/33796

Home

2008-11-15T11:19:00.001+08:00

Today

I have arrived home

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Ku Tak Sanggup

2008-11-13T16:26:00.006+08:00

I was doing some spring cleaning last sunday. Since I am moving to the city soon, I thought, might as well start packing some stuff now while I still have the will. And the things I found, I could do garage sale with them! Anyway, I found something else. I found my past. My beautiful beautiful past. In a box. A treasure. Among them. I found this song....

Malam ini aku sendiri

Tanpa dirimu memeluk aku, kasih

Kau dimana

Ku ingin bertemu

Ungkapkan semua rasa rinduku

Haruskah aku berlari

Haruskah aku menangis lagi

Ku tak sanggup bila aku jauh dari dirimu

Ku tak sanggup bila aku jauh dari

Cintamu

Hanya Tuhan yang tahu segalanya

rasa rindu yang aku punya

padamu ...hanya untukmu

Hey you... Thanks..

Much Love

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Come Fine Dining With Me

2008-11-10T20:54:00.004+08:00

Ladies and Gentlemen,

You are invited to a night of fine dining at Sheraton Hotel. (Date to be confirmed)

An early farewell to 2008. Lets do this with style!

Attire

For ladies - Classy / glamourous / Sexy / Bling-bling

For the gentlemen - Dress shirt (no jeans and t shirt please)

R S V P to My Number so I can reserve your seat.

So let's have a fun evening of good friendship and reminiscent on the good and bad times in 2008

With Love

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A poem on Love by Rumi, A persian Poet

2008-11-08T21:45:00.007+08:00

Mushy Mood On!

I was dead, I became alive.

I was tears, I became laughter.

The majesty of love came, And I became an everlasting majesty myself.

From love, bitter becomes sweet,From love, thorns become flowers,

From love, vinegar becomes wine,
From love, fire becomes light,

From love, devils becomes angel, From love, sorrow becomes joy,

From love, sickness becomes health,
From love, fury becomes mercy,

From love, dead becomes alive.From love, king becomes servant

Tee Hee.. layan saja tia..

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Halloween - The Sequel

2008-11-06T22:25:00.002+08:00

Halloween Amazing Race

The Task

The Teams Before they ran amok!

Trying to be scary.... NOT!

Shytee this is scary!

My Team

Stadium with B3T

At Pasar Malam Gadong ! Oh yes we were!

At Mameh for Nasi Katok

At WyWy Bengkurong

We have to clean 2 tables!

My Pumpkin!

Now you guys compare which one is the scariest!

What happen after the race?

Ghost Convention @ Bandar @ 1 a.m.

Family Photo

errrrr....

The End

See you dead people next year !

Thank you !

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Halloween Amazing Race - A Teaser

2008-11-02T23:00:00.004+08:00

Heya Guys

The Party was a blast.

The Race was Amazing.

The Costume ?

Shocking!

These are just a few of them.... Wait for the next sequel!

The two witches of Meradun

3 devils and the 3rd Eye

The Vitch, the Vamp and the Virtue (that's moi, of course)

Some crazy people

The one that got away and terrorise Bandar!

Thank you guys for being such a sport!

Much Love

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EVENT : HALLOWEEN PARTY

2008-10-28T20:32:00.005+08:00

My fellow JagongianZz

You are invited to join the ghouls and the goblins this Saturday 1st. October @ my dungeon from 7.30 p.m. onwards.

Attire

Horror (For those who turn up as themselves will need to join the moustache gang and believe you me - u ain't gonna be pretty!)

Games

Halloween Amazing Race

A game where you and your group are to finish several tasks assigned within a time limit and a limited budget. It is better to dress-up or down so no one will recoqnize you. You have been warned!

Dirty Mind - no explaination needed of course

Entertainment

Horror movies. Pancake would be an option.

Fried worms in bloodied sauce
Naked virgins on sacrificial sticks
BYOF, BYOD as usual!

Well you get the ideas..

See you

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Teriakan naluri ku.. eseh...

2008-10-22T10:50:00.003+08:00

I am hungry

I got tons of works

I am sleepy

I got tons of work

I am bored

I got tons of work

I want to go on a holiday

I got tons of work

I need a day off

I got tons of work

SERIOUS F***I GOT NO LIFE!

HELP!

And oh... I want to be in love again!

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Need I Say More?

2008-10-14T10:42:00.001+08:00

Pictures speak louder than words!

With Thanks

2008-10-13T12:48:00.003+08:00

Friends, Romans and JagongianZz

Thank you. Terima Kasih, Syukran, Xie Xie, Merci.. okay.. that's as far as my thank-yous in several languages but I meant it with all my heart.

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Hari Raya Open House

2008-10-09T10:57:00.003+08:00

Dear Friends

Graciously inviting you, your partner(s) and family to my raya open house this Sunday 12th October 2008, @ Kg Tasek Meradun from 4.30 p.m. onwards

Your host

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Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri

2008-10-03T11:18:00.003+08:00

Bisai-bisai driving atu, walau kan beraya.. hehehehe
Selamat Hari Raya to ALL from thesebruneians

Hey F1 is here!

2008-09-06T16:27:00.005+08:00

Life size replica of F1 car. It is made out of chocolates!! Yes chocolates! Wheels and all! Mini replicas are sold here at the hotel too. Don't remember how much they cost tho...mmm...

This is the real deal F1 car.

Any of you guys coming to watch F1? The atmosphere here is soooooo exciting with the coming F1. Besides.... It would be more fun eating yummy hagendaaahhhhzzz ice creams with you all while strolling along Orchard road.

Muah! Miss you all!

Selamat Menyambut Ramadhan AlMubarak

2008-09-03T11:41:00.007+08:00

Allahuakhbar!

Moga ibadat sentiasa di terima

Mudahan mendapat redha Allah

Dimurahkan rezeki

Diberkati

Amin

This child is amazing!

Mohon keampunan kesalahan.

Salam

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I AM ALIVE !

2008-08-28T14:37:00.004+08:00

It has been a long time since I put my thoughts or whatever gibberish I could think of then for the blog! I got a few minutes to spare. Darn it - now I can't think of anything to write.

Well Ramadhan is coming soon. I can't wait. I am trying to promise myself that I would go for terawih religiously this year. Insya Allah.

I got a long trip coming up. Sigh. It would be exciting. I am going to shop and shop!

Then there is Raya. I want to host a few open house but then again, I would be jet lagged.

Hahahaha. There you go people. I got absofuckinglutely nothing better to blog about.

Congratulations to AHHA. Apology for not able to make to your wedding. By the time my function was over, the gangs were already on their way home. Enjoy your honeymoon cum shopping in Singapore. Name the first child after me, if you must!

Rina - u gotta show me the tattoo. All the best girl!

Much Love People!

My Favourite Drinks

2008-08-28T14:33:00.000+08:00

Daym I am Thirsty!

Sleep (Tidur) : Sunnah dan Kajian Sains

2008-08-26T13:29:00.005+08:00

SUNNAHS OF SLEEPING AND SCIENCE

"..the Prophet slept for a part of the night, and late in the night he got up and performed ablution from a hanging water skin, a light (perfect) ablution and stood up for the prayer."...(Al-Bukhari)

Modern Studies have shown that this may be the best advice for many people:::

* SLEEP STUDY...a 6 year study of more than a million Americans showed that a good night's sleep is 7 hours. It also showed that people who sleep for 8 hours or more tend to die prematurely.

Study leader, Daniel F. Kripke, says, "You really don't have to sleep for 8 hours and you don't have to worry about it. It is evidently very safe to sleep only 7, 6 or even 5 hours a night. "*STATISTICS...In the study the death risk for people with excess sleep was 34% compared to only 12% for those who slept 8 hours and only 22% for those who had too little sleep!

TREATMENT FOR DEPRESSION...up to 60% of depressed people will show a 30% improvement after just one night awake.*

Sleep inhibits the thyroid stimulating hormone (TSH) that helps control our metabolism and indirectly our levels of energy. An estimated 25 to 30% of depressed patients have low TSH levels. Recent research shows that staying awake through the night and the early morning hours boost it. The holy Prophet would sleep shortly after Isha' and wake up in the very early hours of the morning, sometimes as early as midnight to pray.

Shaykh Abdul Haq in his book Madarijun Nabuwa states,"because the heart is on the left, one will not be satisfied with the sleep and the person will sleep heavily not knowing his state. If one sleeps on the right side the heart dangles meaning a person cannot sleep heavily. This benefits a person as he can look after himself and his family if anything happens. A major benefit is that one will not miss the morning prayeras one is not engaged in heavy sleep.

Imam Shafi states that there are 4 types of sleep ;

1. to lie on the back-this is the sleep of the Prophet's .

2. to sleep on the right side-which is the sleep of the WORSHIPPERS (us!)

3. to sleep on the left side-which is the sleep of the rulers.

4. to sleep on the stomach-which is the sleep of the devil.

sleeping after Asr or before Isha
( bagi orang yang kuat tidur petang hehehe)

HADITH;

Hadhrat Aisha radhiallahu anha states, "Whosoever sleeps after Asr salah and loses their intellect only has themselves to blame.

"SCIENCE;

A gas exits from the earth at the time of Asr salah which is heavy and can effect a person's mind and heart. If a person sleeps before Isha, the body also sleeps and cannot fight this gas hence causing illnesses.

Dusting the bed

SUNNAH;

Look at the method taught by the Holy Prophet 1400 years ago. It is sunnah to dust the bed 3 times before sleeping in it. Ensuring that there are no bedbugs or of the sort resting in the bed! SubhanAllah!

SCIENCE;

No religion mentions the practice of cleaning the bed before sleeping. Once a person did not clean his bed before sleeping in it. Being cold that day, a snake rested in the bed and bit the person killing him. One may ask there are no snakes that roam around freely, however bedbugs that live in the bed may harm you.

Changing clothes before sleeping

SCIENCE;

For hygiene purposes it is advised not to sleep in the clothing worn throughout the day, but to wear something lose fitting as tight clothing does not benefit one's sleep. Whilst sleeping our limbs are stationary affecting the blood circulation; wearing tight clothing will affect the circulation further.

SUNNAH; The Messenger of Allah would wear a lose fitting garment known as the tehband.

kaylula (Siesta)

SCIENCE;

Doctor Geolick Oston, who has written many books writes, "If it was in my control I would close schools, factories etc and make everyone rest at this time as if this is observed then we would have less ill patients and people would be saved from many illnesses." The psychologist suggests that sleeping at this time refreshes the body, strengthening it and it is saved from many physical and mental illnesses. But this is best after eating in the afternoon and for no longer than an hour.

SUNNAH;

Anas said, "The companions of the Holy Prophet would observe Friday Prayer first and then have a siesta (kaylula)."We find that many practices of the Holy Prophet are being proven science! Whatever the Holy prophet did was for the best of his followers!

sleeping with wudhu

SCIENCE;

A similar ritual is also encouraged by yoga experts who say that washing motor and sensory organs such as the hands, arms, eyes, legs, mouth and genitals before sleep using cool water relaxes the body preparing it for a deep sleep.

SUNNAH;

When a person sleeps with wudhu, Allah Almighty gives permission to his soul to visit the Arsh and bow to Allah Almighty. Whilst sleeping in the state of wudhu, the reward of worship is being written for you in your book of deeds all night, SubhanAllah!

Reciting the Adhkaar (supplications) mentioned in the Sunnah before sleeping

There are a number of Adhkaar prescribed in the Sunnah before going to bed, amongst them are reciting the last verses of Soorah al-Baqarah, reciting Soorah al-Falaq and Soorah al-Nas and Soorah Ikhlas blow in the palms and wipe as much of the body possible, starting from the head, face and then the front of the body doing it three times. [Saheeh al-Bukharee and Saheeh Muslim]

Ali Ibn Abi Talib (radhi allahu anhu) reported that when the Prophet's daughter, Fatima (radhi allahu anha) came to him and asked him for a servant, he (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) said to her and Ali: "Shall I not teach you something that will be better for you than a servant? When you go to bed, say 'SubhanAllah' thirty-three times, 'Al-hamdulillah' thirty-three times, and 'Allahu Akbar' thirty-four times. This is better for you than a servant." [Saheeh al-Bukharee and Saheeh Muslim]

Sleep in a state of taharah (purity):
Ibn Abbas (radhi allahu anhu) reported that Allah's Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) said: "Purify these bodies and Allah will purify you, for there is no slave who goes to sleep in a state of purity but an Angel spends the night with him, and every time he turns over, [the Angel] says, 'O Allah! Forgive Your slave, for he went to bed in a state of purity.'" [Reported by at-Tabaranee. See Saheeh al-Jamee (3831)]

Cleaning the bed and lying on the right side
Abu Hurayrah (radhi allahu anhu) reported: "The Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) said: "When any one of you goes to bed, let him clear his bed by hitting it with his garment, for he does not know what may have come onto it. Then let him lie down on his right side*" [Saheeh al-Bukharee and Saheeh Muslim]

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Bujang Lapok bruneian style: d Kedayan Version

2008-08-18T20:14:00.002+08:00

I just love this video. It also comes in Sabah, Tausug & Dusun version, but kedayan version is my favourite. The script is absolutely natural. hard core kedayan! ha ha.. enjoy Bruneians...

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What shampoo do you use?

2008-08-11T21:38:00.002+08:00

You know how people keep forwarding emails about things or cases you have no knowledge of? And then how we would just forwarded it to another person without really checking the authenticity of the content? Well I had a good ‘lecture’ about believing things on emails from a friend. That happened after I forwarded that one particular email about money donation to finance a sick baby’s operation with every forwarded emails it made (yup, I think everyone received this kind of email right?). Anyway, I guess he felt the need to check (where he find the time to check everything, god knows) and googled about the case and true and behold, a series of stories about the e-mail came out and they all mentioned the same word – a ‘hoax’.

So just how much truth are we really receiving and how much lies have we spread throughout the world? ( ok, let’s just narrow our demographic exercise to the local content – Brunei :P) That is a question I will pass on to you - the reader. By the way, who likes receiving chain-emails? I have only one thing to say to the senders – If you send those emails to me, you will have bad-luck for your lifetime and your fingers will itch forever! – (two can play this game)

Anyway the reason why I’m writing this post is to share my latest find on one other forwarded email, staring boldly at me – Shampoos BANNED by Dubai government : SLS means highly cancerous substance present in the following shampoos – and it continued to show the pictures of shampoo brands that contained the substance. What interest me was I had used 3 of the brands before and it led me to Google! 547,000 results came out that supported as well as rejected the ‘danger’ SLS pose to the users. But the fact that there is 547,000 articles mentioned on the issue, made me read more..

What happened next? Well I checked my shampoo - Sodium Laureth Sulfate stated in the ingredients. I stared at it for awhile hmmm.. then I started checking the soaps, my facial wash, u name it! Hahaha talk about awareness programme. Then I read the articles again…

Basically, SLS or Sodium Lauryl Sulfate and its close relative Sodium Laureth Sulfate (SLES) are commonly used in many soaps, shampoos, detergents, toothpastes and other products that we expect to "foam up" and they are effective foaming agents, chemically known as surfactants. The sodium lauryl sulfate found in our soaps is exactly the same as you would find in a car wash or even a garage, where it is used to degrease car engines. Degrease? Isn’t that a STRONG chemical? erkkss

Whereas Sodium Laureth Sulfate or SLES (which is contained in my shampoo) is said to ‘commonly contaminated with dioxane, a known carcinogen’. I was like WHAT!!! Carcinogen?

“CTFA Response Statement: Internet-Spread Rumors About Sodium Lauryl Sulfate (SLS) and Sodium Laureth Sulfate (SLES) Are False and Unsubstantiated. It is typical of Internet rumors notorious for inaccurate and false information.It said that there is no evidence of harm from the use of either SLS or SLES as used in cosmetic products. Both ingredients were reviewed in 1983 by the Cosmetic Ingredient Review (CIR) Expert Panel and found to be safe. Complete reports on both ingredients are available from CIR.The Canadian Health Protection Branch (part of the Canadian government) has branded SLS e-mail stories as a hoax. On its web site (www.hc-sc.gc.ca/ehp/ehd/psb/cosmetics/sls.htm), Health Canada goes on to say “Health Canada considers SLS safe for use in cosmetics. Therefore, you can continue to use cosmetics containing SLS without worry.”

BUT WHAT ABOUT SLES? Most of the articles focusing on SLS but seems to deliberately avoided discussing on SLES details. Hmmmmm…. *worry starts to set in*.

So where is the danger? Probably nothing since they said groups of scientist have come to consensus that it does not pose a risk to users. Ahha.. sure… like I am going to believe that 100% now.. especially with the additional information below….

"In the same way it dissolves the grease on car engines, sodium lauryl sulfate also dissolves the oils on your skin, which can cause a drying effect. It is also well documented that it denatures skin proteins, which causes not only irritation, but also allows environmental contaminants easier access to the lower, sensitive layers of the skin. ( do you think that’s why sometimes you feel scalp irritation and dryness? Hmmm…)

This paragraph gives me concern hmmm "Perhaps most worryingly, SLS is also absorbed into the body from skin application. Once it has been absorbed, one of the main effects of sodium lauryl sulfate is to mimic the activity of the hormone Oestrogen. This has many health implications and may be responsible for a variety of health problems from PMS and Menopausal symptoms to dropping male fertility and increasing female cancers such as breast cancer, where oestrogen levels are known to be involved.” mental note: more water, less soap.. errrr

Ok that’s it, enough googling! Trying to check information on forwarded emails doesn’t clear my peace of mind one bit…. I guess it’s Time to look for that SLS/SLES-free shampoo and soaps.

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